Taken For Granted

Q: How to ensure that a person does not take you for granted in a relationship?

Guruji: Don’t worry about it, it is quite natural.

People take you for granted because they think you belong to them already, and so they only attend to people who are guests. You are a part of the family, why should anybody tell you, ‘Have you had coffee? Are you going to eat now?’ It is not normal!

If someone asks a little too many questions, then also you will doubt, ‘Why are they giving me so much attention. Something must be wrong.’ You start doubting. The other day, one gentleman told me, ‘Gurudev, when I attend to my wife, and be a little nicer to her, she starts doubting, she says that there is something wrong and asks me, ‘What is the matter? You must have done something wrong. You are not being honest.’ If I am normal, then she says that I ignore her. What to do Gurudev?’ So when someone wants to doubt you, in any case, they will start doubting you.

He said, ‘It is very hard. If I come half an hour late, she sits on an enquiry commission, ‘Where did you go? What time did you leave office? What happened? She will ask me all these questions.’

That is why I say, we need to learn to how to handle our own mind. It is the mind which plays so many tricks on you. Your mind could be your best friend if it is under your reins, and it is your worst enemy, if you are under the influence of your own mind.

Q:  What is the importance of the Rudra Puja during Shravan month?

Guruji: If you read the scriptures, you will find that every month has its own importance. Every month is good and auspicious in its own way. . There is a lot of rain during the Shravan month. During this time you should sit, meditate and reflect about God. In the earlier days in India, there was not much work that could be done during the rains. It was neither possible to work in the fields, nor any other household work that could be done. So people would have to sit idle in their house. Being idle in the house, one tends to quarrel, just by looking at each other’s faces. So instead of that, it was advised to reflect and meditate upon God. It is said to behold Lord Shiva in everything around you. Lord Shiva is seated deep in everyone’s heart. He is Nirguna (One who is without form or its attributes). He is Nirakaar (Has no shape or form), and He is the Para-Brahman (Supreme transcendental Consciousness) that is all pervading. Believe in this. This is Rudra Puja.

Om Namah Shivay

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